Whatever Happened To The FemCees? – Women’s History Month 2012

March is Women’s History Month.

We were graced with the presence of five extremely talented young women.

Amanda Furdge – @furdgecaKes

Ashley Good – Gatz N Goods

J Diction – @JDiction

Milly Mango – @Milly_Mango

Trinity – @ChicagoTrinity

These ladies are poets, vocalists, and FemCees who graciously accepted our invitation to freestyle off the dome and the heart.

They tackled Music Industry, Discrimination, Respect, and Self-Love/Inner Beauty.

 SpokenFree Ent. is proud to present:

“Whatever Happened To The FemCees?”

The Ladies’ Websites:

Amanda Furdge

Ashley Good

J Diction

Milly Mango

Trinity

HAPPY WOMEN’S HISTORY MONTH!

Be. Happy.

One thing I doubt I will ever understand is the preaching to women about preparing themselves to be a good wife.  Like, there’s some type of handbook.  Like, we ALL have the ultimate goal of being a good wife, and that’s enough for our lives.  No.  I WILL concede to the fact that as women we are biologically, which transfers too psychologically, inclined to have children.  We know that scientifically speaking, a man is needed to accomplish this.

All that being said, not all women want the same thing, let alone at the same certain “appropriate” times in our lives.  Speaking strictly for myself, I want to be married and have children AFTER stabilizing my life, my education, and my company.  I have NO interest in sharing my life with a man, let alone create a life, when I’m not ready.  I know that at this point in my life, I’m finishing my degree (after only working for a few years), managing an office that is not my own and being Director of Operations for my company.

When do I have the time to dedicate to someone else’s needs on a very, very intimate level?  Creating secrets and having moments that only he and I share? I can HONESTLY say that my mind will not allow me to create that time, because right now, it’s not that important.  I have to be happy by my own standards first.  I will not attempt to “not be lonely anymore” with someone who isn’t for me, or I for them.  Been there, done that.  I am blessed to have AMAZING, REAL FRIENDS that I can count on in a real-life way.  I know that when I’m ready for that, someone will be just as ready.

So, Lady J’s two cents is this; DAMN THE NOTIONS OF “THE ACCEPTABLE.”  Be happy with yourself, your life and its path before inviting another person with their emotions and needs in.  Study, pray, clean your space (house and soul) of old hindrances, eat well, move often, be brutally honest with yourself, know yourself, and keep moving forward.  I feel that when you occupy your time with self-fulfilling (improving) thoughts and activities, the “usual” distractions tend to fade and real happiness begins to fill the void you’ve allowed to exist.

“To thine own self, be true.” –  William Shakespeare.

Love,

Lady J

Real, Sad.

Saw this video via http://hollywoodstupidholt.wordpress.com/ Thanks for this!

Children are not bargaining chips…This is the real-ness and vulnerability ALL MC’s need to be open to.  Hoping any reposting of this gets him signed!

Love, Peace and Hip-Hop

Lady J

For the men who don’t hear it enough…

 

Sup y’all, Lady J reaching out.  I’m writing this because I’ve just been feeling something in my soul for a little while and it can’t sit any longer.

This IS the Spoken Freely Blog,huh?

In all seriousness, as a young black woman I need to speak to black men briefly.  I. LOVE. YOU.   Far too often we hear, see and speak on how horrible black men are.  Too many news stories about the crimes some have committed and seemingly, that’s all we’re left with.  I’m standing on top of my mountain screaming, “NO!”

I know and know of too many college educated, generous, providing, kind-hearted, thoughtful, faithful, higher power acknowledging, knowledge seeking, fire-spitting, community reaching and teaching brothers.

(Yup that WHOLE sentence.)

I’m proud to know you and I appreciate all the motivation you’ve given me. I appreciate your dedication to your crafts, knowledge, community and family.  I appreciate all the things you’ve taught me and all the things I’ve learned.

So, as my lil’ love letter closes I will simply say…

Thank you.

All my love,
Lady J

Woman where art thou?

“Women are like pillows, we absorb everything only giving enough push back to keep a man’s head up.”–Lady J

I pondered on that on my ride to work this morning. I then began to wonder, where down the road did ladies lose sight of the “woman” in the independent woman? And why?

There is nothing wrong with holding your own, but when you are with your man, you gotta let him be that. When did it become the norm for women, especially black women to be so HARD all the time?

What happened to being the support system for our brothers. Now, it’s like “men (for lack of a more commonly used word) ain’t shit” is the anthem for black women, I for one am tired of it.

Women have ALWAYS been the strength behind any man, where did that go? I know that black women are faced with the challenge of proving folks wrong but, still.

I mean really, what separates women from men. Women are naturally gentle, nurturing, etc. Isn’t that what makes us so special anyway?

Why let that part of you go ladies?

That is where all of your power truly lies. There is strength in softness.

Think about it.

Lady J aka Jelz OUT!